Episode 16: Embracing Discomfort with Counsellor Nelson Szeto

Episode Summary

1. Being Comfortably Uncomfortable with Emotions: Embracing and managing challenging emotions allows for growth and self-awareness. This includes acknowledging and working through discomfort in various situations.
2. Understanding Personal Discomfort: Recognizing and working through personal discomforts, such as specific emotions, situations, or conversations, helps individuals address them and grow.
3. Therapists' Own Struggles: Therapists also face emotional challenges in their own lives. This humanizes therapists and underscores that no one is immune to emotional struggles.
4. Parenting and Emotional Challenges: Parents navigate complex emotions for themselves and their children, requiring them to manage their own emotions to effectively support their children.
5. Domino Effect of Personal Growth: Working on oneself and seeking therapy can have a positive impact on relationships with children, partners, family, friends, and even strangers.
6. Building a Supportive Community: Developing a supportive network or village around oneself is essential for growth and well-being, and it involves reaching out to others and fostering connections.
7. Identity Formation and Multicultural Considerations: Understanding one's identity and cultural background helps individuals navigate their journey and relationships, especially when reconciling different cultural influences.
8. Empowerment and Self-Respect: Knowing oneself, respecting one's values, and aligning actions with personal beliefs prevent self-betrayal and lead to empowerment.
9. Managing Others' Reactions: Other people's reactions to your identity are often about them and their own issues. Being aware of this can help navigate difficult situations and relationships.
10. Continuing Growth and Self-Love: Personal growth can continue throughout life, and loving all parts of oneself, including flaws, is key to self-acceptance. This involves not shaming oneself and recognizing strengths.

Guest Bio

💛 Website: www.Incouragecounselling.ca

💛 Instagram: nelson_incouragecounselling

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Nelson Szeto has been counseling individuals across various age groups since 2012, addressing a wide range of concerns including anxiety, trauma, relationship issues, self-esteem challenges, and more. He also supervises master-level counseling students, guiding them through clinical practicum training since 2015.

Employing an Adlerian Psychology framework, Nelson facilitates supervision sessions where students are encouraged to develop their theoretical orientations and apply them in clinical settings. He emphasizes the importance of cultivating their own sense of personhood to effectively connect with clients on a deeper level.

As a second-generation Chinese Canadian, born and raised in Vancouver, BC, Nelson navigated the fog and confusion of holding two cultures. He values both his heritage and Canadian upbringing, drawing from both to enrich his approach to his personal life, counseling and supervision.

Nelson Szeto has been providing counselling to children, teenagers, young adults, middle adulthood, and to older adults since 2012. He supports clients to work through their anxieties, traumatic experiences, relationship issues, self-esteem and decision-making challenges, trust and betrayal issues, loneliness, anger, OCD, work-related stress, academic-related stress, family conflict, life transitions, among other concerns. Nelson supervises the next generation of master-level counselling students in their clinical practicum training and has been doing this since 2015. He uses an Adlerian Psychology framework to guide supervision, and supervisees are encouraged to find their own theoretical orientations and learn to apply it in clinical situations with clients, conceptualize and create treatment direction, and then further develop their confidence in the therapy room. More importantly, it is important to me that supervisees develop their own sense of personhood using their heart to be effective with clients. Nelson is a second generation Chinese Canadian, born and raised in Vancouver, BC. He is a son, brother, husband, and a father. Being a Chinese Born Canadian, he has straddled the two cultures his whole life, finding his way through the fog and confusion and has reached a place of appreciation of both ways of life.

Host Bio

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From a young age, Lexi Burt embodied qualities of being bossy, loud, and energetic. While not much has changed, she's learning to channel this spirited energy into more focused and appropriate areas. With a profound passion for holistic health, psychology, exercise, and nutrition, Lexi earned her Bachelor's Degree in Psychology with Honours from Mount Royal University. A proud British Columbian, she finds solace and joy in nature through activities like camping, hiking, invigorating cold water swims, and her newfound love for outdoor rock climbing. Lexi holds a deep appreciation for concepts such as Hygge, the Blue Zones philosophy, and the overall tranquility of nature. Catch her outdoors, relishing moments with friends, family, her Corgi, and her lovely partner.

Credits

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